In my pysch class, forever and a day ago, I heard it takes 5 positive comments to balance one negative. If you have a little inner critic, complaining about body parts all day, is it any wonder the scale leans heavily on the negative?
So here's what I'm going to do. I'm going to try to make a conscious effort to take the darn compliment. With no additives. And not just hear it and brush it off, saying the snarky little comment in my head. Internalize what the person is saying. Give the person's opinion weight and validation.
Join with me in telling the little monkey in our heads to stop throwing poo. What's that song? "Accentuate the positive... eliminate the negative..."
For me it took realizing that in a way it's an insult to the complimentor to not appreciate what they say. So now I say "Thank you" and mean it.
ReplyDeleteFor me it took realizing that in a way it's an insult to the complimentor to not appreciate what they say. So now I say "Thank you" and mean it.
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