Allow me to take you to my Spanish class today. When I handed my teacher the homework, she commented that I had "really nice arms". So what immediately pops out of my mouth? "Yeah if you like sausages." To which the teacher responded, "You like sausages?" (she's from Peru... lost in translation)
Point is, when someone offers me a compliment, I feel the need to add a little bit of self deprecating snark. Do you do this too? Why are we so ready to see the bad and flaws, yet so reticent to jump on the success train?
In my pysch class, forever and a day ago, I heard it takes 5 positive comments to balance one negative. If you have a little inner critic, complaining about body parts all day, is it any wonder the scale leans heavily on the negative?
So here's what I'm going to do. I'm going to try to make a conscious effort to take the darn compliment. With no additives. And not just hear it and brush it off, saying the snarky little comment in my head. Internalize what the person is saying. Give the person's opinion weight and validation.
Join with me in telling the little monkey in our heads to stop throwing poo. What's that song? "Accentuate the positive... eliminate the negative..."