My big fat waistline was a physical representation of an emotional issue. They were so inextricably linked, that I couldn't solve one without the other.
I was happy-- I needed cake to celebrate. Rough day-- Ben and Jerry's had a flavor custom made for the heart ache.
I personally had to take a good hard look as to why I was fat, and it wasn't just because of a love of food.
Take a deep hard look at your eating habits and figure out if a love of butter is making you hefty. Or is it more that the self esteem issues are keeping you from getting thin?