Hopefully you've had a little practice working on your inner dialogue. You know, the one where you tell yourself how awesome you are, and that you can do anything. Because if your inner voice is a positive one, it's a little easier to tune out the negative ones coming from the outside. You know that ones I'm talking about. Some are well meaning friends and some are just mean. period.
As I started losing weight and training for a marathon, everyone and their dog seemed to have an opinion on how I was progressing and what I should do. About half were really supportive.
"Wow, you look amazing. What are you doing? Keep it up!"
The other half ranged from semi supportive, to downright rude. Here are some of the little tidbits I've collected from friends, family, and strangers.
"Are you crazy? You do know how long a marathon is right?"
"Aren't you gonna need knee replacements, you know cuz of the extra weight and pressure from running?"
"So.. a marathon.. that's great... Is the registration fee refundable?"
"Whatever you do, don't throw out your fat clothes. Because it will be really expensive to buy them all again when you get bigger next time."
That last one was a personal favorite. By the time this loved one (whom will remain nameless) said that to me, I already had some good self-confidence brewing. So I went straight home and boxed up all my clothes that were too big now, yes even my beloved cashmere XXL sweater.
Just because you've analyzed your past mistakes and moved past them, doesn't mean everyone else doesn't remember all your faults in 3D. It may take them some time to realize that you have changed. In the meantime, surround yourself with people who do support you and have only positive things to say about you. And when someone you love doubts you, just remember that they aren't the ones making the decisions. You are. Only you can determine whether you quit or succeed. They just haven't been enlightened yet.
Until next time, if someone says something negative, just tell your inner cheerleader to yell louder.
"Never give up!"